The Holidays

As time raced by and I realized the Holidays had quickly come and gone I realized how hard it was this year. I know I'm not alone and that really is the main purpose of this post.

Whether it be emotional, financial or whatever may be on your mind, know that you are not alone.

So, my Holidays...

For some reason this year has felt more difficult than I have been willing to admit. January 7th was the 3 year mark since we lost my mother and I've come to the conclusion that it never gets any easier. The emotions simply come in waves. Good and bad, bad and good....over and over again. I know this is supposed to be a time for relaxing and enjoying the time & love of good company (family & friends).

When you've lost loved ones though, it can be extremely difficult.

This year felt extremely heavy. I'm sure it's a combination of things but seeing my son and daughter older and actually excited and enjoying the holidays is something I know my mom would have really enjoyed. Specially my son who is quickly becoming my mini me.

I write this because it is easy to lose sight of this during the holidays. You never really know what is going on with someone down deep. It's easy to just pass it off or tell someone who seems down to "suck it up" but that in of itself just aids said individual in burying their troubles/emotions.

Instead, try to be understanding. Don't pry but if it feels like someone is trying to talk, let them. If they feel like they need a hug, squeeze a little extra.

I'm on my way out of the funk from the past couple months but it can really impact someones well being. My eating habits, exercise, writing and a ton of other things were either out of wack or completely abandoned. It all compounds the sadness that creeps in deep surrounding the loss of your loved one.

So please be conscious of the people in your life and how things may be affecting them.

I'm lucky enough to have my amazing wife who is loving, understanding (beyond words) and strong for me. Every single time without fail.

I realize also that this post comes during a very difficult time in the history of this country and this world. People are scared, they are lost and some feel VERY alone. Try to be a little more understanding and a little more loving. We all need it more than we allow ourselves to admit.

So be a little more understanding, a little more kind, a little more giving & a little more loving. Someone you know most likely needs it.

And for those out there struggling and in need, you are not alone. If you feel that way, contact me. No one is ever truly alone.

Big love to you all.

~Ry